If you’ve never been to a memorial, you may be anxious to attend your first one. Your anxieties are totally valid. While considered a celebration of life, memorials are emotionally challenging events—especially if the memorial is for a close family member or friend. On top of stressing over how you may feel at the memorial ceremony, you may be wondering what the proper protocol is on how you should act. While each memorial ceremony is unique to the individual who has passed, there are some etiquette rules that guests assume at every ceremony.
Understanding proper protocol before the date of the memorial can help put some of your anxieties at ease. By relieving a few of your nerves over essential memorial etiquette, you free up more mental capacity to focus on the emotional process of losing a loved one. To help you prioritize dealing with a significant loss and diminish the worry of accidentally being disrespectful at a memorial, Honor You has created a compilation of memorial etiquette rules you should know about.
Preparation is key to calming your jitters for nearly every occasion, memorials included. Below, we’ve listed several dos and don’ts for memorials. From clothes to common courtesies, we’ll cover what you should and shouldn’t do when it comes to memorial services.
When you imagine a memorial service, you probably picture everyone wearing strictly black. Though black is a common color that people wear to memorial services, there is a bit more flexibility than you may assume. Let’s looks at what the standard protocol is for what to wear at a memorial.
Memorials are difficult for a variety of reasons, one being that it’s tricky to navigate what to say to the deceased’s family. You want to convey your sorrow for their loss in a way that’s sensitive and respectful of their grieving process, which is no thoughtless feat. Conveying your well wishes can be especially intimidating if you don’t know the deceased’s family or friends well. We’ve broken down a few recommendations of things you can say and a few other subjects you should avoid saying at a memorial.
You may have a couple opportunities to speak with the deceased’s family and friends during visitation, viewing, or reception. With the way most memorial services are organized, it’s appropriate to wait until after the service to share your kind words. You don’t have to come up with anything elaborate to say – just speak from the heart and the message of your meaning is sure to get across.
Some phrases can be off pudding at a memorial service. Here are a few things you should avoid saying at a memorial.
Perhaps you are more involved in the memorial service than most guests. If you have any responsibilities in planning the memorial service, here are some memorial etiquette rules you should know about when making these final arrangements.
Whether you’re involved in the memorial planning process or not, Honor You has everything you need to successfully commemorate a deceased loved one. You can peruse through our blogs for guidance on planning services or dealing with the emotional tolls of losing someone. We offer an abundant selection of custom funeral memorial programs for you to choose from to make the service feel more personal. With our assistance, you can ensure a memorial celebration that is well-organized and individualized to the beloved character of the deceased.