As we begin this holiday season we often find ourselves enjoying the company of family and close friends. We relish in food, fun and festivities. We can’t help but reminisce, sharing memorable times. We get to catch up on our day to days, what’s going on at work, how the children have grown and how we have developed since we’ve last been together. While this is a wonderful time of creating new memories, it can also be a time that we are reminded of the loved ones who are no longer with us.
During the holidays I find myself reflecting on the many wonderful memories that I shared with my parents. They were two beautiful people who I counted an honor to have had in my life. Being able to empathize with many across the globe who are either dealing with loss for the first time, those experiencing a void, those having a hard time coping with an empty chair, a familiar scent missing or being anxious about not hearing a hearty laugh or pleasant conversation on the other end of a phone, I wanted to encourage you this season with just a few things that have helped me celebrate the life of my loved ones.
First realize that it’s okay to tear up or cry as our minds trail back to warm embraces, funny sayings or wacky adventures. It’s okay share how truly you miss your dear one. It helps to share your stories with others, especially with those who understand and can appreciate what you’re feeling. The more you share, the more you’ll find yourself laughing more than crying as you’re reminded of happier times with your loved one.
You know what I’ve also found great? Taking a spontaneous trip, changing up routines, as well as even upgrading your environment. These things stimulate your mind to think differently because of a new experiences. You may find yourself doing something that is even more enjoyable than before! It is not a bad thing to continue on with your life, and is actually a necessary thing for you to continue living and enjoying life. By you continuing with your life, it is a great way to extend the life of your loved one because you carry their memory
Finally, nothing helps a hurting heart than helping to heal another’s. Find somewhere you can extend help to someone. This can be extremely therapeutic. We tend to see beyond our pain when we are encouraging someone past theirs.
These are some things that I have been able to do personally to help me during the grieving process. I pray you are able to gain some comfort from these too.
Have a safe and happy holiday season!